True beauty isn't just on the outside, but it is really something that comes from the inside. You can appear to be attractive, but if you don't have an attractive personality to go along with it, then that just ruins the whole purpose of being a beautiful person.How far do you think a pretty face will take you? It's the beautiful person on the inside that makes all the difference. You can decide whether you want to be just another pretty face or a person with an absolutely fantastic personality. I'm sure that you've seen girls who are not so good-looking with a whole fleet of guys around them.The answer is simple. It's because they have great confidence in themselves which makes them look desirable, and people, especially guys, like being around a girl who is comfortable in her own skin. Act the way that you would like to be treated.
Don't criticize yourself
You are your own worst critic, and that is true. Don't name every single flaw you have because it's very displeasing and makes others feel uncomfortable. If you say something like, "ugh I'm so fat", it puts people in a weird position so just don't do it. Some girls do this to seek attention or affirmation that these things aren't true.This is really not a good way to make you feel any better. You should always compliment yourself, instead of mentally tearing yourself down. Don't point out the negative things, point out the positive things you have to offer.You can't rely on other people to make you feel good about yourself. That is your job. Think about this, if you don't appreciate yourself, then who will?
Is it possible that's all in your head?
I'm sure you've all been around these kinds of girls who insult herself for no reason. They do it just to receive compliments. Maybe, you're one of those girls yourself. The truth is, people don't like to hear that negativity and find it just plain annoying.I'm not saying that all girls who feel bad about themselves fish for compliments, but some of them do.Some girls are just so perfectly gorgeous, slim, with a lot of friends and everything, but they still insist on calling themselves fat and ugly. More than likely they know those things aren't true. They say it just so people will assure them that they look great and all. It's irritating to other people. Some girls probably do this to get compliments, and some girls may do this because they really have a bad view on themselves. If this is the case, then they really need to talk with a close friend or spend some time on fixing their brains.Like I've said before, it comes from within. You have to be the one to feel radiant inside. Nobody else can provide you with that feeling.
One of those bad days
So what do you do, when you have one of those days, when you just feel so down about yourself? Everyone has them. Basic common sense thought, "don't let the bad day get the best of you." Don't let it make people around you suffer along. If you don't feel good that day. Then just spend some time alone.
Let your uniqueness show
Who says we have to be thin to be beautiful? We don't have to look like a supermodel to find ourselves attractive. We shouldn't let those things get to us. All those magazines, TV show, and movies with the "perfect" people is all just fantasy. It isn't real life. It isn't how real people look like.This is real life here. We are real people. We don't look perfect at all. We all have our own different problems. Our differences (our flaws) are what makes us special and unique.Don't let anyone else make you think you aren't good enough. Just remember to feel good about yourself, no matter what. That mentality will take you far in life.
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Things You Should Do To Love Yourself
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Wednesday, April 30, 2008
The 30 day challenge
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Wednesday, April 16, 2008
Building a Healthy Body Image
Feel Great About Your Size And Shape With These Tips
Building a healthy body image means you'll be confidence in your appearance, no matter what your size and shape. Here's 5 ways to build a healthy body image.
Building a healthy body image takes practice, time, and patience – but before you know it you'll be setting amazing but attainable goals and taking exciting risks! Here's how to build a healthy body image and be confident in your size and shape.
Building a Healthy Body Image: At War With Our Bodies
The textbook definition of body image is: the inner perception of physical appearance, or size and shape. When you've built a healthy body image you feel good about yourself no matter how you look.
A more well-rounded definition of healthy body image is: how we perceive our bodies to fit (or not fit) the expectations of our culture and ourselves. It's all about what we "should" look like and how slim we "should" be. We learn to be at war with our bodies, fighting them to be thin, flawless, smooth, unblemished, and perfect. This is where unhealthy or bad body image comes in, and why it's important to build a healthy body image.
Building a Healthy Body Image: How Bad Body Image is Created
To build a healthy body image, you need to know how a bad body image is formed. A bad body image is built in part by our experiences with other people. Parents, teachers, siblings, spouses, children, family, and friends can influence bad body image with a look – not to mention comments about our weight or various body parts. Bad body image is influenced by the pictures we see in magazines and on tv. We constantly compare ourselves to flawless models, and we come up short every time. Building a healthy body image is crucial to a healthy, happy life.
A bad body image can develop into body dysmorphic disorder, which is a psychological condition. This is another reason to build a healthy body image.
Building a Healthy Body Image: Women Versus Men
Women are literally more in touch with their and other people's bodies than men are, which often develops into bad body image. We may be more sensitive to our physical selves because our daily lives are more focused on bodily functions – ours and other people's – than men's. We get our periods, ovulate, get pregnant, and give birth. Men don't really notice their bodies the same way. This could set the stage for a bad body image. Building a healthy body image involves accepting our whole bodies.
Women are more likely to take care of the natural functions of kids (the contents of diapers, potty training, vomit, snot, blood, and whatever else oozes out of their bodies). Women are also more likely to be nurses, home care givers, and other professions that involve taking care of ill or elderly people. Again, this could be the start of a bad body image. Building a healthy body image is about taking care of and honoring our own bodies.
Builidng a Healthy Body Image: Accepting Your Size and Shape
Many women have a distorted image of their bodies, or bad body image. Specifically, we think we're fatter and uglier than we really are - which could develop into fear of intimacy. We tend to focus on what we don't like about our bodies and selves, which is the basis for a bad body image. Other people don't see what we see; they're usually less critical of our bodies than we are.
Building a healthy body image is about focusing on what we like about our size and shape - even if we're not perfect.
5 Ways to Build a Healthy Body Image
Different people will find different tips helpful when it comes to building a healthy body image.
1. Focus on your strengths and positive qualities.To gain confidence in your appearance, notice what you love about your body! Building a healthy body images means dwelling on your strengths.
2. If your friends or family comment on your flaws, consider limiting the amount of time you spend with them. Boosting a bad body image includes looking out for your best interests.
3. Figure out who you are and what you want out of life! What are your dreams, passions, and goals? Concentrate your, and worry less about your body image. This, ironically, will help build a healthy body image.
4. Get healthy. Move your body around, learn how hunger works, try new physical activities. Enjoy the confidence movement and fresh air brings! Building a healthy body image is about being strong and active.
5. Learn to be comfortable – and fearless! – when you're naked. Building a healthy body image means enjoying your nudity.
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